Choosing Your Plus One...
Updated: Mar 21, 2019
It’s always exciting receiving a wedding or party invitation, especially when you see the words “and guest” written next to your name. But after the excitement wears off about not being a lone solider, you might be stuck wondering who to bring. You might have a partner or particular friend that you already want to ask (good for you!) but if not, then you’re suddenly left with a big responsibility. After all, nobody wants to be the one who brings the guest who takes advantage of the free bar and spends the rest of the night in the toilet. Follow our tips to save you any potential embarrassment and to make sure you have a great time with no worries about your plus one!
Are they flakey?
Will your guest actually show up? Not showing up to a wedding is a big deal, as most likely the bride & groom have spent a significant amount of money on each guest. Make sure the person you are inviting is responsible and reliable and they’ll actually block off the date of the event. Weddings are expensive and the price per head is no small matter. You don’t want to be in the situation where you’re making excuses for their absence.
Have You been to an event with them before?
You might have been out for the occasional drink but have you seen them in any social situations? Do you know what they act like at parties and weddings? Some people act differently when they are in big groups of people and may end up being a big cause of embarrassment on the day of the event. You want to be able to feel relaxed, without having to keep a watchful eye on your guest. Make sure he/she has manners and will heed the dress code.
Beware of drama!
You don’t want to be the one who brings any drama to the wedding. Make sure the person you are bringing isn’t someone’s ex or anyone you know might make another guest feel uncomfortable. Consider the to-be-weds feelings—and the feelings of other guests too. Inviting the brother of the bride's cousin's best friend who had a fight with the groom last time they saw each other is NOT a good idea. Not only will it ruin your night, but i will ruin everybody else's.
Introduce them to The Happy Couple.
If the couple doesn’t know the person you’re inviting, be polite and introduce your plus one to them at some stage of the day– it’s a nice thing to do since they are paying for them to be there. If you get embarrassed at the thought of introducing them, then they are probably not the right pick!
Think back to a time when you have been out drinking with your potential guest. If you are attending your Grandparents 50th wedding anniversary and they head straight for the bar, they might be the wrong choice! You want to make a good impression and remember the event, not end up in bed early because you've been kicked out for being drunk.
Are they shy?
If you are bringing your plus one to a party where they might not know anybody then it's always best to pick somebody who is not shy. Being a plus one at an event where you only know one person can be difficult, it involves lots of introductions and talking to people you don't know. If your plus one is shy then this could be difficult for them, making the event awkward not only for them, but for you and anybody else they come into contact with.
Good luck with choosing your plus one, We hope you make the right decision!